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I’m posting this as a traditional top but seeking help and learning to be a better bottom…
Last weekend, I rode my bike to the park and stopped off at Starbucks. Just as I was arriving another handsome man also pulled up wearing tight biker shorts. Because I am more into intellectual connections I did not pay much attention to his body. One thing led to another, and we wound up back at my place stinky and all. We started out having a few beers, but this led to a few cosmos and some Jaeger shots. I could tell that he was into me, although we never discussed anything about sexuality or relationships. But we wound up in the bed and when he peeled off his shorts, he had just a normal sized penis however, when we started to play it blew up like a hot air balloon. It was Extremely large. I commented on it and he explained that a lot of people that he is with cannot take it and he says one of the worst experiences about sex is a “whiny bottom“. Well, as things progressed it became clear that he expected me to bottom. And I am not very experienced. After a lot of play, he was able to fit the tip into my anus. And he slowly worked it in while I was disguising the fact that I was mortal pain. This was because I was extremely attracted to him, but I did not want to disappoint on his number one gripe which was a whiny bottom. I’m sure that he dumped a gallon of semen inside me and it was not pleasurable at all, I did not even ejaculate because the pain in my butt Prevented me from orgasm Ming since my penis became shriveled up. Through the night he ended up fucking me three additional times. By the time I woke up in the morning, I actually had to physically feel my butt to make sure that it was still there. It felt like a cross between Hamburger meat and probably an engorged vagina. It honestly felt like there was no actual butt hole there. Anyway, I have flooded about this throughout the week as we’ve chatted every single day. And I went to the adult bookstore and bought a tapering dildo. I could barely put it in past the tip the first couple of days because I was. Still reeling in pain from the bludgeoning that I received over the weekend. Last night before he came over I tried working that dildo in my butt as long as I could. And we ended up having sex again, but only one time this time and he commented something to the effect of that. It was not as tight as it was last week. I’m wondering if anybody has had a situation like this, where they are really into the person, but you feel like you were just being used for a tight hole and then you will be discarded after you were used up?
 
Its not just a question of the fucked but also the fucker. If a guy has a big nob he should be aware it might be a bit difficult for all guys to take and use his sexual prowess to make sure that during insertion he listens and understands what's going in with the tight hole. As for the bottom, well it's not just saying anything goes, if you feel uncomfortable then its a no no. The main thing is to be able to relaxe, find a position where you can take his cock easily, and dont strain, dont reject, just relax and ease him in. Twice I've had to stop guys fucking me because of size, outdoor shagging up against a tree isn't always the place to get done but both times I found a way to enjoy their extra size by taking them home.
If your hung guy is only using your tight hole then its not worth the effort, you want to be fucked because he likes you, respects you, not just because you are a hole to cum in.
 
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Lube lots and lots!! I use water based when I do anal play. I can take pretty large dildos now, 6" girth, I know humans have larger than that, but that's pretty fucking big.

But it takes at least 30+ minutes of toy play starting small and working up to humongous. You need to lube up prior to him even being with you. If you can, lube your anus and rectum with your finger. Maybe even use an enema bulb just so you are getting things opened up and looser than normal. Once flushed with water, water-based lube goes a long way in your rectum. And yes practice when he's not there. If you had an Aneros or other kind of prostate toy that goes in and doesn't fall out easily on its own, this can really warm your ass up for penetration. Like 10 minutes for me and I can start using dildos. I feel like the problem you've faced with pain is lack of lube or not enough. And if you aren't lubed up it hurts really fucking bad. The whole process of lubing you up can be an erotic moment, too. Whether you do it to yourself or he does it to you. Fingers are fun too!!!
 
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Lube lots and lots!! I use water based when I do anal play. I can take pretty large dildos now, 6" girth, I know humans have larger than that, but that's pretty fucking big.

But it takes at least 30+ minutes of toy play starting small and working up to humongous. You need to lube up prior to him even being with you. If you can, lube your anus and rectum with your finger. Maybe even use an enema bulb just so you are getting things opened up and looser than normal. Once flushed with water, water-based lube goes a long way in your rectum. And yes practice when he's not there. If you had an Aneros or other kind of prostate toy that goes in and doesn't fall out easily on its own, this can really warm your ass up for penetration. Like 10 minutes for me and I can start using dildos. I feel like the problem you've faced with pain is lack of lube or not enough. And if you aren't lubed up it hurts really fucking bad. The whole process of lubing you up can be an erotic moment, too. Whether you do it to yourself or he does it to you. Fingers are fun too!!!
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This is helpful information. Mostly up until now. I had just relied on the use of swamp ass.
 
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Elphee said:
This is helpful information. Mostly up until now. I had just relied on the use of swamp ass.
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thanks! Through the years, I've been into this whole "eroticizing" the anus thing, where its delicately and lovingly played with and touched/massaged from the outside, and slowly pushing a finger inside, in and out, lubing up as it goes, until its super slick and slippery, and it feels really good and its a turn on. It relaxes everything down there big time.

Swamp ass, like a lube called "swamp ass" or just...
 
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thanks! Through the years, I've been into this whole "eroticizing" the anus thing, where its delicately and lovingly played with and touched/massaged from the outside, and slowly pushing a finger inside, in and out, lubing up as it goes, until its super slick and slippery, and it feels really good and its a turn on. It relaxes everything down there big time.

Swamp ass, like a lube called "swamp ass" or just...
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Like when you’ve been dancing at the club all night and you get a lil moist in your butt crotch area…
 
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Elphee said:
I’m posting this as a traditional top but seeking help and learning to be a better bottom…
Last weekend, I rode my bike to the park and stopped off at Starbucks. Just as I was arriving another handsome man also pulled up wearing tight biker shorts. Because I am more into intellectual connections I did not pay much attention to his body. One thing led to another, and we wound up back at my place stinky and all. We started out having a few beers, but this led to a few cosmos and some Jaeger shots. I could tell that he was into me, although we never discussed anything about sexuality or relationships. But we wound up in the bed and when he peeled off his shorts, he had just a normal sized penis however, when we started to play it blew up like a hot air balloon. It was Extremely large. I commented on it and he explained that a lot of people that he is with cannot take it and he says one of the worst experiences about sex is a “whiny bottom“. Well, as things progressed it became clear that he expected me to bottom. And I am not very experienced. After a lot of play, he was able to fit the tip into my anus. And he slowly worked it in while I was disguising the fact that I was mortal pain. This was because I was extremely attracted to him, but I did not want to disappoint on his number one gripe which was a whiny bottom. I’m sure that he dumped a gallon of semen inside me and it was not pleasurable at all, I did not even ejaculate because the pain in my butt Prevented me from orgasm Ming since my penis became shriveled up. Through the night he ended up fucking me three additional times. By the time I woke up in the morning, I actually had to physically feel my butt to make sure that it was still there. It felt like a cross between Hamburger meat and probably an engorged vagina. It honestly felt like there was no actual butt hole there. Anyway, I have flooded about this throughout the week as we’ve chatted every single day. And I went to the adult bookstore and bought a tapering dildo. I could barely put it in past the tip the first couple of days because I was. Still reeling in pain from the bludgeoning that I received over the weekend. Last night before he came over I tried working that dildo in my butt as long as I could. And we ended up having sex again, but only one time this time and he commented something to the effect of that. It was not as tight as it was last week. I’m wondering if anybody has had a situation like this, where they are really into the person, but you feel like you were just being used for a tight hole and then you will be discarded after you were used up?
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I met an older guy once at a restaurant where I was having lunch. He was at least 15 years older than me and very attractive. We were seated at the bar and talked while we ate. After finishing lunch he said his apartment was a couple of blocks away and asked if I wanted to come over. We went to his place and after a couple of beers he leaned over and kissed me. Things quickly heated up and we went to the bedroom. When he took off his pants out flopped the biggest cock I ever saw. It had to be seven inches soft. When he got hard it was over ten inches and thick. I am not a bottom by any means and hadn't been fucked many times but I wanted to see if I could take this monster. He lifted my legs and before I knew it he had his cock in me and shoved it almost all the way in. To my great surprise it didn't hurt at all and he fucked me as hard as he could. I was in heaven. It was some of the best sex I ever had.
 
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Its not just a question of the fucked but also the fucker. If a guy has a big nob he should be aware it might be a bit difficult for all guys to take and use his sexual prowess to make sure that during insertion he listens and understands what's going in with the tight hole. As for the bottom, well it's not just saying anything goes, if you feel uncomfortable then its a no no. The main thing is to be able to relaxe, find a position where you can take his cock easily, and dont strain, dont reject, just relax and ease him in. Twice I've had to stop guys fucking me because of size, outdoor shagging up against a tree isn't always the place to get done but both times I found a way to enjoy their extra size by taking them home.
If your hung guy is only using your tight hole then its not worth the effort, you want to be fucked because he likes you, respects you, not just because you are a hole to cum in.
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>whiny bottoms
i bet that is the case lol being a good fucker doesn't end at straight men just because you're a top doesn't mean you're inherently good at sex yourself
including what you mentioned i would add trying to suck it in, many people say to push but that is a recipe for fissures and hemorrhoids
 
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Elphee said:
I’m posting this as a traditional top but seeking help and learning to be a better bottom…
Last weekend, I rode my bike to the park and stopped off at Starbucks. Just as I was arriving another handsome man also pulled up wearing tight biker shorts. Because I am more into intellectual connections I did not pay much attention to his body. One thing led to another, and we wound up back at my place stinky and all. We started out having a few beers, but this led to a few cosmos and some Jaeger shots. I could tell that he was into me, although we never discussed anything about sexuality or relationships. But we wound up in the bed and when he peeled off his shorts, he had just a normal sized penis however, when we started to play it blew up like a hot air balloon. It was Extremely large. I commented on it and he explained that a lot of people that he is with cannot take it and he says one of the worst experiences about sex is a “whiny bottom“. Well, as things progressed it became clear that he expected me to bottom. And I am not very experienced. After a lot of play, he was able to fit the tip into my anus. And he slowly worked it in while I was disguising the fact that I was mortal pain. This was because I was extremely attracted to him, but I did not want to disappoint on his number one gripe which was a whiny bottom. I’m sure that he dumped a gallon of semen inside me and it was not pleasurable at all, I did not even ejaculate because the pain in my butt Prevented me from orgasm Ming since my penis became shriveled up. Through the night he ended up fucking me three additional times. By the time I woke up in the morning, I actually had to physically feel my butt to make sure that it was still there. It felt like a cross between Hamburger meat and probably an engorged vagina. It honestly felt like there was no actual butt hole there. Anyway, I have flooded about this throughout the week as we’ve chatted every single day. And I went to the adult bookstore and bought a tapering dildo. I could barely put it in past the tip the first couple of days because I was. Still reeling in pain from the bludgeoning that I received over the weekend. Last night before he came over I tried working that dildo in my butt as long as I could. And we ended up having sex again, but only one time this time and he commented something to the effect of that. It was not as tight as it was last week. I’m wondering if anybody has had a situation like this, where they are really into the person, but you feel like you were just being used for a tight hole and then you will be discarded after you were used up?
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Try cowboy or reverse cowboy. Use some anal ease cream or some other numbing cream. Use your dildo in a tub of warm water to help you stretch and practice with progressively larger dildos. I've done this for a long time but unfortunately have never had a real big cock. Disappointing really...
 
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Use some anal ease cream or some other numbing cream.
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I would suggest him to be a bit careful with this sort of thing. My last lady was sadomasochistic, so she had a way to deal with me, but, every now and then, incidents happened because they were disguised either by some numbing cream, or even disguised by the pain itself — she enjoyed it, making the crescendo for the climax rather hazardous for herself. So, I would have to resurface from the bliss to check if things were not too messy every now and then. It would go too deep, and after a certain depth, internal structure is a bit different, has different resistances, microbacteria to mind, it can be dangerous having a foreign body poking too deep, risk of ruptures, internal bleeding and whatnot. And from my side as the top, it was also a risk for infection and contamination, so I always had a strained condom trying to hold as much as possible and would never try without one. But it was only possible due a lot of lubricants, as already stated/suggested above. We arranged a spray-tube with lub, so I could spray inside her anus in order to push lub ahead as I started penetration – it helped a little to push and she said it seemed less complicated as her canal adapted to my length and girth. Of course, she also had some stretching contraptions to help in the foreplays.

Always be on the safe side of the street, I say.
 
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he explained that a lot of people that he is with cannot take it and he says one of the worst experiences about sex is a “whiny bottom“.
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Sounds like the main problem is that he’s not a good top.. he didn’t notice you weren’t enjoying yourself any of the 3 times?

Also his wants sound stupid and contradictory. He wants you to be tight like a virgin but relaxed enough to take it without complaint or noise. Good luck lol.

I know he’s hot but it doesn’t sound fun to me

I’m a former total top who started bottoming in my 30s after not “getting it” for years. I learned my biggest issues were

1. Mental, I wasn't comfortable with the idea of being penetrated and so it was just not working.

2. My tops sucked, in hindsight they had no clue what they were doing. Since I was a total top for years I expect a lot out of my tops I think that’s fair. Put yourself in this guys shoes I feel like you would’ve noticed one of the 4 times that your bottom was just bearing through it, he obviously didn’t really care tho.

3. Embarrassingly or I guess I don’t care, I’m apparently a size queen haha. Once I sat on a thick one I was like “ooooh” lol
 
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chrisrobin said:
Its not just a question of the fucked but also the fucker. If a guy has a big nob he should be aware it might be a bit difficult for all guys to take and use his sexual prowess to make sure that during insertion he listens and understands what's going in with the tight hole. As for the bottom, well it's not just saying anything goes, if you feel uncomfortable then its a no no. The main thing is to be able to relaxe, find a position where you can take his cock easily, and dont strain, dont reject, just relax and ease him in. Twice I've had to stop guys fucking me because of size, outdoor shagging up against a tree isn't always the place to get done but both times I found a way to enjoy their extra size by taking them home.
If your hung guy is only using your tight hole then its not worth the effort, you want to be fucked because he likes you, respects you, not just because you are a hole to cum in.
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I've said it more than once on this site. When I top I always listen to my bottom. Amd when someone wantys ti fuck me, I expect to be listened to. I know there are so-called macho dudes who boast about ripping somebody apart and make fun of whiny bottoms — but they're not part of my world
 
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I have a 2.5 inch prostate massager butt plug in diameter (7.85 circumference) that I can take. I started with a 1.5, though I wasn't sure if that was my limit. I looked online and found the plug and my horny mind decided that I wanted the biggest one. Worst case, the one size lower was only $15 so I figured why not. At first, I wasn't able to take it. Over the course of many sessions spanning a month or two, I was able to stretch enough to accommodate it now. Actually, if I play with it a little before insertion, I found that I could insert it without even realizing I had so that means no pain at all. Granted, rapidly pulling in and out the thing was not particularly comfortable, but that is also due to it only being 2.5in around a ball shaped part so it is not a constant 2.5in like a dildo or so. I also found a wolf dildo that I was interested in mainly due to the knot, but the one I got has a knot that I can't fit yet since it is 3.5in... I did find a stretcher dildo/plug that goes from 2-4.3in that was for $25 that I will probably get at some point. This is the best that I have found personally. Any other option is either a set of dilators, or a massive cone. That said, you can find more interesting dildos that do the same if that is what you want. I probably would be a little annoyed with not being able to fully insert it... Guess that could be the motivation?
From my research, you should try to stretch twice a day every day. You shouldn't have any pain from this, though if you are like me, it was hard to tell that I was going overboard at first... After that, you should find that you are more accommodating after a month or two.
 
Godslittlejoke said:
Try cowboy or reverse cowboy. Use some anal ease cream or some other numbing cream. Use your dildo in a tub of warm water to help you stretch and practice with progressively larger dildos. I've done this for a long time but unfortunately have never had a real big cock. Disappointing really...
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Meet me sometime and you can have a THICK one. Length wise above average but not Huge. Girth more impressive.

I live in Clarksburg and bf is in New Martinsville. (Both about an hour from Parkersburg).
 
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